American actress and Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle, revealed in a recent New York Times op-ed that she had a miscarriage in July.
In the op-ed, the Duchess shared how while tending to her and Prince Harry’s firstborn son, Archie Mountbatten-Windsor, she suddenly felt pain in her stomach.
The Duchess said that she knew, as she “clutched” her firstborn, that she was losing her second.
In the op-ed, the Losses We Share, Markle also shared the issue of talking about the topic of miscarriage.
It brings “an unbearable grief, experienced by many, but talked about by few,” she said.
Criticisms and Praises
The Duchess’ confession of her miscarriage to the public earned her praises from different people and personalities.
People who also went through the pain of miscarriage applauded her bravery for talking about an almost taboo subject.
For example, Anita Singh, an editor at the Daily Telegraph, thanked Markle for writing about miscarriage.
The editor also went through the same ordeal and shared it felt comforting to know you’re not alone.
However, some people criticized her for doing it, saying it’s just another PR stunt.
One Twitter user, for example, accused Markle of writing a “total fiction” to become relevant.
A few months ago, another American celebrity, Chrissy Teigen, also shared the loss of her third child due to miscarriage. And like, Markle, Teigen also got mixed reactions from her revelation.
Opinion: Why Talking About Miscarriage Shouldn’t be Up for Debate
One, it is just plain insensitive to think that a mother waiting for the birth of her child would want the miscarriage to happen. It is also insensitive to think that a mother would use her miscarriage only to gain sympathy or relevance. Although getting sympathy would probably be helpful.
Another reason is something that was already discussed by Markle in her op-ed: the topic is still taboo to a lot of people. Markle talking about it in public is helping break the stigma and shame surrounding it.
Although miscarriage is quite common, up to this day, a lot of women still experience shame and stigma from sharing their stories.
Since it’s not often talked about, it usually leads to a mother’s feeling of isolation and disconnection even from her family.
However, when someone who has a platform like Markle and Teigen talks about these experiences, it empowers other women to do so.
In effect, it opens the discussion on how to make things better for mothers, for example, through emotional support or medical advances.